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A few years ago, survey results claiming Facebook was the cause of one-third of divorces had the internet buzzing. And between the Ashley Madison hack scandal ; the launch of Instagram direct messaging; the rise of Snapchat; and Tinder's explosive growth, there are now even more digital avenues to facilitate infidelity . So does social media encourage cheating or does it simply provide people who would cheat regardless with an easier way to stray? The question was recently raised on guyQ, AskMen's Q&A platform. Does Facebook cause marital infidelity? Recently saw an article saying about 66% of divorces cite some kind of evidence of social media involvement as part of the divorce case. See question AskMen readers weighed in on the topic, sharing their own experiences involving social media and infidelity as well as highlighting the different sides of this ever-relevant debate. Read the answers below and join the conversation. It’s like people and guns: Guns don’t kill p...

When our parents were young, they didn’t have to worry about how the internet and technology has turned us all into sociopathic nightmares who think getting someone's attention consists of creepily 'liking' year-old Instagram photos or scrolling through profiles of people on some location-based app at the very same bar you're in at that exact moment together rather than actually looking around because man, it is hard to order a drink and scroll at the same time. No, when our parents were young they needed to meet people by going out and about and vetting potential dating options through friends and friends of friends. It was arguably more difficult, sure, but it also allowed them the opportunity to truly process their feelings about a person before being blindsided by a two-hour long dinner with someone who doesn't know the difference between a regular conversation and the "me me me" show. Below are six dating realities our parents never had to deal wi...

The Dating Nerd is a shadowy figure whose whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. What we do know is that he is really, really good at dating. He's been on more dates than you can shake a lengthy bar tab at, and he's here to help the average guy step his dating game up a notch - or several. Need his help? Email . The Question Hi Dating Nerd, I know the whole 'Pickup Artist' thing is dated these days, but I still find myself wondering whether I should do some research on it. One of my friends (pretty ugly guy, OK job) still manages to get laid pretty frequently and tells me he's borrowed some of his flirting techniques from PUA forums. It seems really shady and obvious, and yet it seems to work. What the hell is going on? - Pickup-Confused Nerd The Answer Hi PC Nerd, Good question. I want to talk to you about a pickup artist technique -- specifically, what they call 'the neg', because pickup artists have a dumb word for everything. See also ‘kin...

Approaching women: we aim to act suave like James Bond, but often come across like the French skunk Pepe Le Pew, pursuing a cat that doesn’t quite hear our call. The initial approach is a game of cat and mouse that is made much harder by the fact that women love to be a challenge. They’ll act nonchalant and hard to get, and it’s on you to figure out whether she doesn’t want to be approached or if she’s just making you work for it in the name of courtship. To crack this girl code, we sought advice from a diverse trio of ladies that are familiar with the matter. Pop stars Charli XCX and Tinashe, and former Miss Universe Olivia Culpo (2012) were all at SoBe’s 21st birthday party in Las Vegas, where the brand launched two new flavors of the drink (Midnight Mojito and En Fuego). After the show, we caught up with them at the pool party to get their approach on approaching. Photo courtesy of Getty Images A Challenge Or Not Interested? Approaching women would be so much easier if ...

Every couple has a blowout now and again. But what's the difference between a fight and The Fight That's About To Send You To Singleville? How do you know when the writing is on the wall between you and your partner? As soon as these disagreements pop up, you'll want to take a long hard look at your relationship… The driving tear-up For years, tedious comedians traded on the stereotype of women being bad drivers who couldn’t read maps. The actual source of motorway enmity is that a large number of men are hypertense control-freaks with hair-trigger emotions who spiral into an anxiety attack the second that they don’t know exactly where they are, if they’re on the right road or precisely how many metres it is to the next Little Chef. 45 minutes into the journey and any other-half in their right mind would be excused for popping the catch, rolling out of a moving vehicle like Jason Statham and taking their chances on the hard shoulder. The wardrobe malfunction You as...

There are certain things a man can only know if he's had a woman tell him everything. And we mean everything. From details you didn't know were discernable with the human eye when she finds Mr. Right to tears coming out of places you didn't know had tear ducts when she's at her lowest of lows, these are the surprisingly wonderful things you find out about the opposite sex if you've ever had a female best friend. Being spontaneous isn’t always endearing or bohemian Your BFF will tell you fairly quickly that women don’t think its louche or charming to text at 7pm saying ‘wanna do something tonight?’ What goes through a woman’s mind is simply, ‘if you like me that much, you would have made plans before now’. This is intuition pure and simple. We texted this late because somebody else blew us out. Women know this. Don’t think they’re going to be flattered. Crying is actually useful sometimes via GIPHY Ever noticed how much better you feel after a good ...

Ahhhh… the age old question of “who should pay on the first date? It’s a minefield for the modern dating man . Try and do the gentlemanly thing, and you could end up looking a sexist dinosaur; split the bill, and the only thing you could end up kissing goodbye is the chance of a second date. Indeed, you need to tread carefully. To get to the bottom of this thorny issue once and for all, we asked 10 women for their opinion on the matter – from a feminist commentator and sociologist to model and porn star. Wallets at the ready, chaps. Or not. The Dating Coach: Modern men should do things old school “This might sound a little archaic – and men on a shoe string budget won’t be too pleased to hear this – but a man should always pay for dinner and drinks on the first date . You might think that spitting the bill or letting her pay is the behaviour of a modern man, but those ‘modern men’ usually just get friend-zoned, or thought of as cheap. If she insists, pretend to ac...

I was chit-chatting to a friend recently when the subject turned to romance and, more specifically, the kind of upkeep it requires. The idea of an open relationship came up. “Never works, my friend told me, folding his arms and reclining in his chair smugly, “neeever works… Why, I asked, had he been in an open relationship before? “No, he replied. “But my friend’s friend was, and the guy ended up running off with another woman! The deepest of eye rolls ensued. Is this not the kind of apocryphal tale we’ve all heard a million times over? The friend of a friend whose story ends with one person being jilted for trying something that goes against convention? It’s like everyone considers an open relationship to be a blaring signal, a deafening klaxon that the end of your love affair is nigh; that to invite another into your relationship and expecting it not to end horribly is like driving through a red light and expecting not to be hit. But not all relationships that are op...

Psychologist Martin Goodyer is the author of WTF Just Happened? , out now. Finding love isn't easy. Flirting, dating, love-making, moving in together, and then inviting friends to celebrate your union sounds like a simple route, but is it? There are plenty of ways to get it wrong. Here's how to avoid them. If in doubt, speak up What did you mean by that? Five words usually only heard during an argument . However, if they are used less pejoratively they can reduce misunderstandings, and may even prevent arguments in the first place. Both men and women share basic human characteristics; one being a tendency to make assumptions, and another that they can listen to only one conversation at a time. Put these together and chaos will ensue! Your partner is constantly processing and making assumptions about what you say and do, as well as having a conversation inside their own head about what you're saying. It causes them to miss whatever else you might be saying and so it's ...

In certain quarters of society, the idea that women have become "too easy" is a common complaint. This is generally a conservative position which has the "good old days" as its point of comparison, where women were expected to be modest and chaste until marriage. This traditional model had its most recent heyday in the 1950s, where traditional family values that centred the importance of marriage and "saving yourself for one person" were at their apex. After the sexual revolution of the 1960s, which came about due to changing social attitudes and technological advances like the invention of the oral contraceptive pill, attitudes towards pre-marital sex became looser. The rise of various feminist movements also encouraged women to break free of old social norms throughout the 1970s, '80s and 90s – right up until today. So what's the upshot of these decades of social change? Basically, women these days are, generally speaking, more likely to openly...

You’re probably aware of how much of an ass-kicking gender roles has been getting for the past few decades. The progress of feminism often leaves men feeling like they're left out of the equation entirely. You see, in order to discuss how we expect women to act in society, we must also discuss the ways in which it forces men to act in order to appear appealing. Back before the '70s, men spent less time at home, and more time at the workplace. Studies also showed that during this time, men spent more weekend time on activities such as gardening and DIY projects than before. In a way, the rise of sexual freedom and political unrest gave way for a more modern man . Of course, masculinity has always been evolving and shifting given the culture climate, and before the '70s it was slowly shifting to accommodate trends and the economy. Then, the '90s saw a wave of hair gel and being more fluid with your mannerisms and attractions to other men. As time progressed, we saw the ...

If the announcement this week of the AdultFriendFinder hack has frozen you in your love-tapped tracks, you may be wondering if any of your online and app-based dating exploits are safe. After all, it’s one of the largest data breaches ever recorded, with some 412 million accounts across the globe compromised. It comes after last year’s Ashley Madison hack , which revealed the details of 37 million users of the extra-marital affair dating site. Let’s face it: in 2016, we are all at risk of a data hack, whether our devices are storing state security secrets, or the phone numbers of three girls we’d love to more than virtually click with. And what, with the NSA ever working its global surveillance project, plus the evidence that even the encryption credentials of https, VPN and 4G are fallible, it’s enough for any man of dignity and a few dodgy internet searches in his browser to retreat into Luddite tactics of only hitting the local pub in want of a date. Thankfully, there are...

The Dating Nerd is a shadowy figure whose whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. What we do know is that he is really, really good at dating. He’s been on more dates than you can shake a lengthy bar tab at, and he’s here to help the average guy step his dating game up a notch -- or several. Need his help? Email . The Question Hi Dating Nerd, I have a friend who has always been nice to me. We were really good friends and she used to hang out with me daily. We have shared a lot of fun moments with each other and everything that happened in life. But now, all of a sudden, she has stopped spending time with me and is out and about with some other friends and particularly a new male friend like she used to do with me. She also missed my birthday party this time and that never happened before. What could possibly be a reason of that? I don't remember doing anything offensive or creepy that might have forced to do this. She also ignores my messages sometimes. Again, this ...