Healthy Life Guide

One of the trickiest -- probably the trickiest -- part of dating is mismatched expectations. It’s far too common for one person to have commitment issues and for the other person to not realize this. Say you’ve just gotten out of a serious relationship and you’re carrying a lot of baggage. You don’t want to get into anything new for a while! How do you convey that to a woman without coming off like an absolute douchebag and pissing her off? RELATED: The Best Online Dating Sites You Should Try Luckily, these tips will help you handle that conversation with grace and tact. 1. Don’t Tell Her Immediately “Hey, so excited for our first date tonight! By the way, you should know that I’m not looking for anything serious right now. See ya! This is awful. Don’t provide a disclaimer in your online dating bio , or tell her too early that you’re not looking to commit. It comes off arrogant -- it presumes that the other person is trying to commit to you. Until you know what she w...

Beginning a new relationship can be stressful at the best of times. Sure, you’re overjoyed (hopefully) by a new person’s presence in your life. You’re getting along, developing a rapport, and exploring each other’s bodies for the first time -- whether that means hours of passionate sex or simply holding hands. But in the moments apart, doubt can creep in. Does this person like me as much as I like them? Or way more? Will this work out? Am I doing something wrong? Coming on too strong, or acting too aloof? All of that can be much trickier if you’re someone who struggles with mental health issues, unfortunately. But luckily for you, you’re far from alone in this, and there are plenty of things you can do to make sure your brain chemistry doesn’t come between you and your new significant other. Here are some tips about how to talk to your new partner about your mental health issues: 1. You Don’t Need To Lead With Them If you’re not sure how soon to bring up your mental ...

Yuck. Your head is stuffy. Your nose is runny. Your eyes are blotchy and red. And your energy level is a whopping zero. There’s nothing worse than waking up not only on the wrong side of the bed but with a cold. Men receive plenty of flak for being basically dysfunctional when they’re sick, and perhaps for good reason, since having flu-like symptoms impacts every aspect of your personality and life -- as well as your sexual performance . Since many men tie their sense of self and ego to their ability to satisfy their partner sexually, feeling less than their best can be difficult to manage. But considering the countless germs that swirl during this time of year, your chances of contracting a sickness are high. To ensure you don’t let it get the best of you, it’s important to understand just how a cold or a flu impact your libido and the best ways to still make your partner feel special -- and sexy -- even if you’re under the weather. Here, a guide from experts on navigating c...

Depression is a thief. It steals into people’s lives quietly, without much fanfare, and saps them of joy. It makes it hard to get excited about things, hard to care about your passions, hard to do pretty much anything. It’s also an affliction that is rarely well-understood -- often, people mistake it for simple sadness, or worse, laziness, without realizing that it’s not really like either. It’s not something you can just “get over and it’s not something that’ll vanish if you go for a walk or hang out with some old friends. If depression is a reality in your life, it can be tough to know how to succeed at all manner of things many people take for granted, but what about dating? How can you muster the energy to go on dates with new people, strangers who you imagine might not understand what it means to be depressed, who you fear might misread signals or back off if you tell them about your diagnosis too early on? Thankfully, it’s far from impossible for people who strug...

Cheating in a relationship is ugly, it’s messy, and it happens all the time. OK, so you cheated on your girlfriend, and now you two need to Have The Conversation -- what could possibly be worse than that? Don’t worry, we’ve got your back. Here’s how to break this news to her gently and make the best of a bad situation. 1. Make Sure To Pre-Empt Anyone Else Telling Her Don’t let your relationship turn into a bad B-plot from the show Friends! Don’t wait for her to find out you cheated from someone else. It hurts much more to hear it from some office gossip or well-meaning nosy person than from your own partner. RELATED: The Five Different Levels Of Cheating, Explained Find the earliest possible convenient time, take her somewhere private (coffee shops or crowded restaurants are not ideal for this kind of conversation), and tell her gently and plainly that you did something wrong. There’s no need to go into too much detail at this point -- it will be a massive shock to her,...

The door, opened. The arm, proffered. The coat, laid down across the puddle.  Chivalry is rife with romantic gestures like these; symbolic interactions that harken back to a long-ago time when men were men, women were women, and that was all there was to it.  Over the course of the 20th century, as feminism picked up steam and wave after wave of gender-equalizing thought broke across the bow of the great ship Patriarchy, chivalry began to fall out of fashion.  You hear men asking these days -- “Can I still open a door for you? Can I still pay for the date , or is that sexist?  Where many women read a chauvinism into such questions -- and they’re not necessarily wrong -- it’s also fair that there’s a certain wounded pride there. Meaning, “I was taught to treat you one way, but I’m scared you’ll just get mad at me if I do.  Chivalry is what men were taught for many generations. It wasn’t always what they practiced, but it was an agreed-upon standard for what the righ...

We get it -- if you learned the ins-and-outs of dating decades ago, before you got married, getting back into the swing of modern swiping and digital connections presents a steep learning curve. But if your post-divorce goals include meeting a partner to share your life with -- a relationship that goes the distance, investing in the new rules of dating should be your next priority. One key area where most men fail to hit the mark is with the phone. While previous generations might have looked forward to (and, ahem, waited for) a nightly dial to catch up or have meaningful conversations, texting via blue one-liners and many clever emojis is quickly becoming the new normal. Not sure how to exercise your thumbs in an effective way? Here, relationship experts and therapists give their candid advice on the new golden rules for making phone calls. Now you don’t have to question if you should text, ring, FaceTime, WhatsApp, Facebook messenger or send a carrier pigeon when you’re into a w...