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The Dating Nerd is a shadowy figure whose whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. What we do know is that he is really, really good at dating. He’s been on more dates than you can shake a lengthy bar tab at, and he’s here to help the average guy step his dating game up a notch -- or several. The Question Ahhhhh Dating Nerd, This girl I'm seeing is really great. Like, sometimes I have to pinch myself to make sure I'm awake. We hang out, we text, we go bowling, we hook up, but she won’t commit to me. What the hell am I doing wrong? - Scared She Won't Commit The Answer Dear Scared, When you say that this girl won’t commit to you, what do you mean exactly? Has she threatened to murder you in cold blood if you ever change your relationship status on Facebook? Has she signed a legal contract saying she’ll never buy you a Valentine’s Day present ? Does she have an anaphylactic reaction to the idea of keeping a toothbrush at your plac...

Meeting a stranger from an online dating site , IRL usually involves the story of a quick escape that needed to be made when your match ended up looking nothing like her profile picture. Or cried to you about her ex-boyfriend. Or showed up covered in cat hair and proceeded to show you photo after photo of her cat, Mittens. If you're starting to feel discouraged after yet another failed attempt at sealing the deal with an online dating match that seemed so promising, here are some inspirational stories from women revealing their dating app hookups that actually went well. 1. Memorable Moments In The Men’s Room "Back in the days of 'Tinder Moments,' where you could post a picture that would act as a status of sorts where all of your matches could view your picture, my bff and I would plan our nights out using that feature. We would post a hot picture of the two of us together on a Saturday night and ask Tinder , 'Can we come party with you?' Then We would we...

You idiot. What in the absolute hell did you do to fuck this one up? Okay, calm down and take a few deep breaths. This isn’t the end of the world. While losing the one you love aka the One That Got Away ™ may seem like it’s the end of the world, I can assure you that it’s not. While the feelings circling through your stomach, heart, and brain are currently at their most uncomfortable state, there is plenty to do to win back the one you lost. All it takes is a little bit of sticktoitiveness and a slight suspension in self-respect… but just for a little bit. Here you will find everything you need to do get back the one that got away. Apologize Profusely… If It’s Your Fault What happened? Look, let’s straighten out the facts before they blow up in your face. If either one of you did something completely morally reprehensible, then you should truly consider if it’s worth getting back together. Some couples can get through something lik...

You may not think that Ferris Bueller was actually onto something when he skipped out of school for a grand adventure — but if you ask most dating and sex experts, they’ll be quick to say that playing hooky may lead to something you really want: nooky. Why? Encouraging your girl to take some time off of work spontaneously while you do the same sends a clear message of how you’re prioritizing your relationship. “Work can overrun our lives and minds. We often bring work home and find it hard to relax, unwind, and focus on being sexual,” say Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels , co-authors of Designer Relationships, Partners in Passion . “Taking a day off to have a sexual adventure is a very romantic thing to do. It’s well-known that people tend to have more sex when on vacation, and taking a day off can be a mini-vacation.” While you may be working on a big project at work or feel like you’re overwhelmed by your ever-growing to-do lis...

Most people are familiar with the concept of an alpha male -- a physically strong and socially dominant man who generally has his pick of the (straight) women around him. The alpha female, however, is a more recent phenomenon, thanks in part to the feminist movement that took hold in the 1960s and is continuing to break down economic and social barriers for women today. It's worth noting, before we continue further, that the whole concept of "alpha" and "beta" men and women is more than a little problematic. The terminology originally arose within the field of biology: Scientists would observe groups of animals and determine the rank of its respective members, categorizing each of them from most to least dominant according to letters of the Greek alphabet.  It's a crude and sometimes inaccurate way to think about the social relationships of human beings, who have much more complex hierarchies and scales of dominance than monkeys, say, or lions....

There’s no worse feeling out there than laying in your bed alone knowing your girlfriend is sleeping over at another guy's house. Trust me, open relationships aren’t for everyone. Like many people in their early 20s, I fell into my open relationship by way of a girlfriend who cheated on me and wanted our love to last. I was 20 years old, totally naive, and driven by the idea of appearing adult; all I had was my little apartment in the North End of Boston and a controlling girlfriend who gave me a serious case of Stockholm Syndrome. We had been together since the end of high school and her method of dictating my life was the only way I knew how to do things. During winter break, in which she was home, she cheated on me and tearfully admitted it a month later. I was brokenhearted, but as determined as she was to keep the relationship going. At the time, I thought she was the one and would stop at nothing to make sure we lasted. She suggested opening ourselves up to other pe...

It's no new news that online dating has its challenges. First off, the whole process of getting up and running can be pretty time consuming. You'll need to take the time to figure out what photos you're going to use -- and make the tough call on which one you're going to lead with in order to attract the most matches. Once you're done making yourself look good, there's the task of deciding what to say about yourself. Walking the line of coming off as confident but not too conceited is no easy feat -- especially when you've only got 150 characters or so to play with. And after you've got your pictures set up in the right order and feel like you've nailed that "about me" section, you'll need to spend some time mastering the art of the first message. All of the above can involve a lot of trial and error -- adding to the time suck that is online dating. But not all single guys are spending hours figuring out how to get it done. In fact, so...

For most men, meeting the right woman is an idea that’s nice in theory, but not top priority for quite some time, especially during your 20s when you’re building your career. But whether you credit meeting your girlfriend to the universe, chance luck, some online dating site or to nothing at all, when you reach that point when you’re ready to take it from Facebook official to legally binding -- it’s a big step. In fact, that one question is what’s so essential -- and no, not the one you will ask her -- ‘will you marry me?’ but the one you will be asking yourself: ‘how will I ask her to marry me?!’ While a spontaneous proposal has it’s merit, most men have to think carefully, do some research, examine their finances and ya know, make sure that it’ll be a special memory for their relationship, and a story to tell their families (and ahem, future children). Figuring out how to propose does not have to be so anxiety-provokin...

In North America, cultural norms dictate that more often than not, we're the ones tasked with approaching the opposite sex to initiate romance. There are exceptions, sure, but as a rule we select who we want to approach, and the ladies select who they want to share their time with. And it kind of sucks! It takes balls to approach a random woman, and the fear of getting rejected is real. It's so real, in fact, that many a man has wondered aloud how much sweeter life would be if the roles were reversed. Imagine that, women hitting on guys! Would it indeed be paradise? If this AskReddit thread is any indication, the answer is an emphatic no. Guys shared the creepiest ways women have hit on them, and let's just say the grass is not always greener on the other side. bigkodack There was this girl who sent me a suicide note and told me "I love you so much that I'd die without you". We've been talking for about 3 days at this point ccnova I used to drive a limo (...

Complimenting a person you’re romantically interested in can sometimes be tricky business . You don’t want your compliments to ring hollow or come across as disingenuous — or as just another attempt to get in her pants — but, at the same time, leaving her starved of affection and affirmation is unlikely to be a smooth move, either. The trick is to focus on less-obvious areas for praise in order to truly impress her. Compliments like “You’re the most beautiful girl in the world” are thoroughly cliched and are unlikely to cut it, so you’re going to need to be slightly more creative. Here are the top 10 compliments women can’t resist, and that might not come to mind immediately: 1. “You’re hilarious!” One of the biggest drags about being female is the persistent myth that women aren’t funny , even though female comedians and actors are consistently proving this trope wrong, and ordinary women are cracking each ot...

With proper testing and Tinder profile optimization, getting Tinder matches is easy . However, many men still struggle with how to talk to girls on Tinder. Throughout my research building TinderHacks, and subsequent consulting with men who struggle to find success on Tinder, I’ve noticed a pattern that will significantly increase your success with Tinder messaging. Building a great profile is just half the battle, because a match is virtually useless unless it leads to a conversation. What’s more, a conversation isn’t worth much if you can’t convert the exchange into a phone number, or better yet, a date. If you’re struggling to get matches, then I suggest you start with my Top 5 Tinder Tips article I recently posted. Once you get the matches flowing, and want to step up your messaging game, read on… Tinder Messaging Basics: The truth is that by and large, a girl is not going to message you first. A few will, but over 80% of them just aren’t g...

If you begin to suspect that you're being cheated on, you probably know to pay attention. This is your gut talking to you -- and it’s an important one to pay attention to, especially if you’re starting to doubt the trust you’ve built with your long-term girlfriend within your committed relationship. If you start to suspect or worry that your partner is cheating -- whether at work, online or with a guy friend you never trusted -- it’s important to pay attention to your intuition, while also being realistic, too. Real infidelity that you can prove can have a hugely detrimental impact to your couplehood, and can often make it difficult to come back from -- but so can accusing someone of being unfaithful with no proof. Why’s that? The foundation of every loving relationship is based on a genuine respect, admiration and steadfast trust in your partner, and anything that aims to threaten that connection is not only tricky, but can cause many hurt feelings, t...